Tips to plan a women's prayer breakfast just for you!
I love women's prayer breakfasts! These type of events are inspiring, energizing and offer a great place to wear my Christian shirts for women. Ha! Seriously, if you’re planning a women’s prayer breakfast, begin your planning with the “end” in mind. What do you want your prayer breakfast to accomplish? What should the participants leave with? What information, that is. How should they fellowship? How should they feel during the event?
Define The Purpose
If you have a formal team, ask them to work together to define the goal/objective(s). This could take a couple of meetings,
A great team discussion could begin with:
“What 5 competencies or benefits do we want the ladies to leave with?”
“What do we want them to say to their friends after the event?”
“What should they have experienced [during the event] before they left? What should they do after?
Record the answers for each one, determine what steps your team needs to do to make sure each goal is accomplished during the breakfast.
For instance, if one of your objectives is to help women commit to a prayer life, then brainstorm the barriers to prayer, the solutions to the barriers and a means toward removing those barriers. Maybe you can present the solutions during the event. Maybe your speaker can address them.
From the defining the purpose, you able to effectively begin handling the elements of the planning process.
Do you have a team? If so, consider them and plan their experience in helping you bring your vision to fruition.
You want your team to feel comfortable and vested. If they are, they will get more done. Besides efficiency, you care about them and want them to enjoy the planning as much as possible, right?
So, as you are laser-focused on the results (the project), consider the interactions that occur during the planning process.
Keep the meeting tone light, on-point and expeditious.
Make good use of everyone’s time. Start on tome. Always.
Always allow each one to share something great that happened since you last met. This builds a sense of connection and team cohesion. Sort of like an icebreaker (see ideas below).
Women’s ministry is one of my foremost passions. I’ve worked in various areas of ministry, but my favorite has been that of ministering to women in church settings.
Planning a Women’s Prayer Breakfast is blesses so many people and impacts lives in real ways. Prayer, fellowship and food – what could go wrong there?
Well, whatever demographic God has assigned you, here are a few tips for your next Christian women’s workshop or women’s prayer breakfast.
Consider the barriers … what are the barriers?
When planning your next women’s prayer breakfast, think of all the reasons women will NOT come.
That’s right, start from the negative (pessimistic) and work your way toward the positive (solutions).
Here’s how: during your first planning session with your women's ministry team, brainstorm a list of all the reasons (and excuses) some women won’t attend your event. Display them on a white board or chart paper for the entire group to see.
Then, one by one, brainstorm solutions to each excuse.
For instance, lack of transportation shows up on the list? A possible solution is offering transportation help or carpooling. Problem-solve a long list of attendance barriers and categorically think of ways to remedy each one.
- Plan to have a team if you can. I don’t care if you husband is your team. You need help.
- Pick a free venue, if possible. Your church is a great (and likely the best option).
- Get on Facebook and social media and ask your friends about available places. Someone may know a person who owns a space or can help.
- Decide what your prayer breakfast will accomplish. Do this step first. What is your one-sentence goal?
- How much of a “breakfast” is it? Pastries and coffee? Eggs, bacon, pancakes – define breakfast. Maybe hubbies and kids can prepare to cut the budget.
- Define a budget and cut corners where you can. Utilize Dollar Tree, Walmart and your mom’s attic.
- Invite surrounding churches. Invite the pastor’s wife or first lady
Select a Bible Scripture for the Day!
God's word is critical to the success of anything in life. You especially want utilize the power of His word during your prayer breakfast.
Want some scriptures for your prayer breakfast? Here are some ideas that may help:
Scriptures for a women’s prayer breakfast
Then, because so many people were coming and going that they did not even have a chance to eat, he said to them, “Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest.”
Take full advantage of the learning
“Keep my commands and you will live; guard my teachings as the apple of your eye.
The Lord will guide you always; he will satisfy your needs in a sun-scorched land and will strengthen your frame. You will be like a well-watered garden, like a spring whose waters never fail.
Like a snow-cooled drink at harvest time is a trustworthy messenger to the one who sends him; he refreshes the spirit of his master.
*Help the ladies see the connection between the prayer breakfast fellowship and the refreshing time together as sisters.
The LORD is a refuge for the oppressed, a stronghold in times of trouble.
Those who know your name will trust in you, for you, LORD, have never forsaken those who seek you.
Praise Him, Ladies!
Yet a time is coming and has now come when the true worshipers will worship the Father in spirit and truth, for they are the kind of worshipers the Father seeks. 24God is spirit, and his worshipers must worship in spirit and in truth.
2 Chronicles 7:14
If my people, who are called by my name, will humble themselves and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven, and I will forgive their sin and will heal their land.
I pray that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which he has called you, the riches of his glorious inheritance in his holy people,
You will pray to him, and he will hear you, and you will fulfill your vows.
Is anyone among you in trouble? Let them pray. Is anyone happy? Let them sing songs of praise.
Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask for in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours.
May the LORD answer you when you are in distress;
may the name of the God of Jacob protect you.
May he send you help from the sanctuary
and grant you support from Zion.
May he remember all your sacrifices
and accept your burnt offerings.
May he give you the desire of your heart
and make all your plans succeed.
He will be the sure foundation for your times, a rich store of salvation and wisdom and knowledge; the fear of the Lord is the key to this treasure. Isaiah 33:6
Getting Away to Learn About God – A good thing!
Start with Prayer…I mean you.
Pray and ask God what He wants the women’s prayer breakfast to accomplish. He has a way of nudging us (with the Holy Spirit) toward His plans, so I’ll bet the objectives He wants are already on your heart. If He leads you toward corporate prayer being the only objective, then you follow Him succinctly.
Leave them wanting more
Keep your women’s prayer breakfast agenda simple, focused and strategic.
Don’t try to cram too much into it. Personally, I lean toward doing less at my events in order to have more impact. Less can be more- if you do it right.
Few things are worse than attending an event so “busy” it leaves you mentally exhausted. Don’t do that to your ladies.
I’m becoming a fan of different types of prayer breakfasts formats.
I like including panels discussing prayer, doing work in small groups at the tables and other types of group activities. I even like giving the women a chance to just re-focus on their own relationship with the Lord. Everything doesn’t always have to be reaching out. Sometimes, busy women need a break to reach upward and inward.
Your Planning Team
You can benefit from having several “voices” and points-of-view involved planning your women’s prayer breakfast. If possible, seek out women of various ages, ethnicities and skills. Their varying perspectives will add wonderful dimension to your event.
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Create a Ministry Avatar
You know, the business world has crafted some great resources that could be useful to us in ministry.
Have you heard of avatars? No, I don’t mean the creepy animation lady.
No, this type of avatar is a persona (or imaginary person) that represents the type of woman you want to reach.
Avatars are largely used in progressive marketing circles to define a target audience for a product or an effort.
It helps you be more successful in your marketing platform and really get into the “head” of those to whom you want to minister. With an avatar you can create a profile of the kind of woman/ women your ministry hopes to reach.
What are the goals of your avatar?
So, let’s get into the mind of your avatar so we can think of a theme that will attract her.
Questions to consider are:
What does she value in life?
Is she at a stage where she’s trying to transition from being in control to being middle-aged and letting go of her children?
What might she find fun?
Does she have a lot of discretionary time?
Does she have any time limitations (i.e. babies, work, family, etc)?
How does she prefer to communicate – online or offline?
But when planning a women’s ministry theme, I think it makes sense to be as “micro” or basic as I can be so that I can ensure I meet the needs of the people that are to be the beneficiaries of the ministry.
Do you see how this info would impact your marketing efforts and even help when you plan events?
A glossy “dossy”
Many marketers create dossiers for their avatars. This could be a simple one-page collection of info about the lady you want to attract to your ministry.
Some marketers make theirs in the form of a story. They actually write a story!
It’s wild, but could really be a good ministry tool!
Imagine that you are that avatar and write about the day-to-day of her life.
Explore what she goes through and align it with the ministry you’re creating.
How would she respond to it?
What would she feel about it?
What is she looking for in her life spiritually, creatively and socially?
How did she hear about the ministry?
How did they feel once she attended a ministry event?
All of this plays into your theme. Do you see it? Huh? Huh?
All I’m guiding you through doing is market research.
How will you break the Ice?
Ready to engage women at your next Christian women’s “get together”, hang out or women’s group? Simple icebreakers area great for women’s prayer breakfasts or any event where women gather.
Why I like icebreakers…
Icebreakers do more than simply get a group giggling.
They connect people. A common misnomer is icebreakers only work for strangers. No, you can use icebreakers in a variety of contexts! Not only will they introduce strangers to one another, but, they also provide a moment of “connection” for just about anyone. You can use icebreakers with your kids, your husband, your mate and even your family.
Sure, you can use icebreakers with family and girlfriend events!
I have a practical example how icebreakers were useful in my personal life.
Not long ago, several of my cousins had a “cousin brunch”. It was special because so many of us had lost touch with one another over the years.
Before I pretend it was all “rainbows” and “sunshine”, let me tell you the real deal.
The brunch came to about because my son got married and several family members did not receive a formal invitation. There was no ill will. It was just because he didn’t really know them in an intimate way. He was familiar with them, but they were not part of much of his life, so he didn’t really think about about sending invitations.
Truthfully, I wasn’t in close contact with any these cousins either – aside from social media and Facebook. Hence, my kids don’t know them. It’s so sad we let this happen, but it was the reality in which we lived.
In an effort to “reconnect”, I texted one of the cousins and suggested a “cousin breakfast” (which turned into a cousin brunch).
It was wonderful! But, still, we didn’t know much about one another’s lives. So, what did we do? We did an icebreaker! Right there in the restaurant, we got to know one another again.
No, we didn’t do the human knot or anything elaborate. We just asked and answered a few questions.
It was super cool and super fun! One of the things I liked most about the process was that it was a quick and non-threatening.
Simple icebreakers are best.
Icebreakers need not be complicated activities. They can be as simple as providing some fun questions that really get at the heart of who an individual really is…at her core.
Icebreakers, especially women’s ministry icebreakers, give a person permission to share a bit of herself in a safe, personal way. During an icebreaker, it’s OK to open one’s heart and provide a window into one’s life a bit. The best part is everyone else is opening their lives too!
Here are a few great women’s ministry icebreakers in the form of questions.
At the end, I’ll share some ideas for constructing these questions into actual activities. However, I like just having the women sit in a circle and take turns answering them.
Now, if you have a big group, break them into smaller groups and have them share. After they share in their small groups, you can ask each group for a volunteer (one or two) to share what they learned about about someone.
Terrific Icebreaker Questions for Women’s Groups:
If you could choose your age for the rest of your life, what age would you choose and why?
Pick something from your pocket or handbag to share with the group. How does to relate to your life right now? For example, if it is a tissue, do you feel you’re wiping slot of messes in your life?
Who do you think is a great example of a successful person? Why?
Which Bible character reminds you most of your self in this season of life? Why?
What item of clothing is missing from your wardrobe?
What do you most appreciate for living in this era?
What is your most favorite board game?
What’s your favorite color? Why? How does it make you feel?
There has been a scientific breakthrough eliminating the need to sleep. What FUN THING would you do with all the extra time?
Suppose, you can take a pill and learn a skill instantly; what skill would you choose?
Aside from Jesus, who is your most favorite dead person in history?
What would you like to be known for?
What do people never ask you that you wish they did?
Have you ever met anyone famous?
Who had the most influence on you growing up?
Describe your past week in weather terms. (Was it stormy, cloudy, foggy, mostly sunny or what?)
What is one thing you are really good at?
One fact about me that might surprise you is…
Aren’t these fun?
Make the questions an activity.
Check out these ideas to spice of your icebreaker questions.
- Print and Pass. Print the icebreakers on sheets of paper and have everyone draw one. Once they draw one, let them read it. Then, tell them each person can “pass” the question to the person of their choice.
- Secret Question, Sister Share. Type and print the questions on 8 x 11 sheets of paper. Fold and tape of the backs (or chairs) of the women. The women that encounter them but answer the questions on one another’s backs.
- Hash Tag Answers. If you have a group included to be on social media, you can read questions to the group and have them respond with a special hash tag.
Here’s how to set this one up:
Step 1: Select two people to read the hash tag responses.
Step 2: Prior to meeting/events, ensure the participants have a social media account (i.e. Twitter, Instagram, etc). They need to all have an account on the same platform for this to work. I like to use Twitter.
Step 3: Think of a hash tag for your time together. It could be the name of your event or something cooky like #FirstBaptistGirlTime. The key is to create a hash tag not used by anyone else.
Step 4: During the meeting, ask the questions then tell the ladies to respond to the social media platform using the hash tag you chose. Ask your social media people to read them. Or you could have the ladies take turns reading them.
Note: This women’s ministry icebreaker takes a bit of time, but is fun for those social media savvy. It’s a good idea to limit the questions to no more than 3 questions as this can take a while.
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