Crafting a prayer for a strong woman
Prayer is a topic dear to my heart. I think it’s because I’m fully convinced without prayer, I would certainly not be here. I am here because of the prayers other prayed for me. I’m also here because the Lord was faithful to my own “asks” and “begs” down through the years. You see, prayer sustains me in my daily walk on this earth. I couldn’t imagine my day without prayer. As I pray, I go to God to find comfort, wisdom, peace, direction, solace, companionship and the list goes on and on. This is why I love to pray so much and I love talking about even more. So, writing this blog post is easy. I titled it prayer for a strong woman because I don’t believe you can be a strong woman without being a woman of prayer. I also believe some folks are seeking how to pray for women in their lives.
Ponder the many facets of prayer.
As you know, prayer takes many forms. Sometimes, prayer is being “shut up” in a room with the lights super dim while you pour out your heart to God.
Other times, prayer is quick and succinct...on the go. Snap snap.
It’s the fast and speedy cry for help we often find ourselves doing when someone cuts us off in traffic or we are sidelined by some bad news or an unpleasant report.
I really don’t care how you pray. I just want you to pray. I’d like you to fellowship with the Lord often so you can be strong emotionally, spiritually and mentally. I want you to experience the peace and the comfort that emerges as you spend time with Him little by little, on a regular basis, in the course of your week. I also want you to experience the joy that comes from a consistent relationship with him.
My prayer life changes.
Through the years, my prayer life has taken so many different forms. It’s morphed, adjusted and transformed.
To be quite honest, I’m not always comfortable with all of the forms it has taken.
Most of my Christian life, my prayer life has looked a certain way. It has been at a certain time.
It was as comfortable with and familiar as that old, dirty, pair of house slippers in the back of my closet.
But, in the last few years, prayer has turned into something else for me. The old model did not “fit” any longer.
A new beginning can begin to emerge. Be flexible in your prayer for a strong woman.
My prayer time became unfamiliar in so many ways. It became almost foreign in process. I felt something change, something shift. Quite frankly, the whole process of it was so uncomfortable that I abandoned designated prayer time all together.
As I mentioned, for most of my Christian walk, prayer was an hour or more in the wee hours of the morning. That’s just what I did. It was routine, it was comfortable and as I mentioned it was familiar.
However, the format began to become almost boring to me. I felt the Lord was leading me to pray more in the evening hours. “What?” I thought.
Since I was used to praying in the early morning, I rebelled.
In case you haven’t figured it out yet, I like calling the shots and I like being in control. This is not always possible with prayer. Because for prayer to work, you’re not in control. The Holy Spirit is.
Acknowledge God is in control of your prayer life.
Anyhoo, I felt the Lord leading me to pray at a different time. Then, He began prompting me to pray in a different place. I’m like what in the world?! I don’t like praying in the spot I was led. It was a cold part of the house and not comfy. LOL
This was a struggle for a while. But, as you know, so much of following Jesus is about relinquishing your controls and dying to yourself. This is key in everything- including prayer.
Prayer has so little to do with “us”.
Prayer is not really a “team” sport. Only one team member matters.
Sure, you play a role on it, but in the end, it’s all about God driving the process. It’s about HIM downloading His plan into your spirit. It’s about Him using that time to transform your heart into a malleable lump of mass He can use to bring His kingdom to this earth. That’s what prayer is about...at least partly.
Sure, in His grace and love for you, He will also listen to what concerns you and what troubles you, but that’s not really what prayer is about. No way.
All we think about us Us!
In my opinion, far too much of modern Christianity focuses on the creation (us) and not the Creator (Him). Our prayer lives are no different.
So many of our praise songs [these days] are about our experience and how we experience God. It’s about what “we” want to do or how “we feel”. In fact, some songs are about how we even think God should feel about us!
Prayer is not about “I am good” I am enough sort” of stuff.
Too many of our worship songs are nothing but positive affirmations.
Just as modern “us-focused” theology has permeated the contemporary culture, it seems it has also contaminated worship.
Honestly, we call it “worship”, but some songs make me wonder who it is I am worshiping.
Just this past Sunday, I stopped singing a song at my church because it was too “me” focused. I just began worshipping God with my lips...my own words. Don’t worry, no one likely knew. In my opinion praise and worship should have little to do with me and not refer to me often. It’s about exulting the Lord.
Worship used to challenge me. It used to refocus me.
I miss the days when Sunday worship was just that - worship.
When it focused on God’s grace and my pitiful state without Him. A lot of old songs did that. Want an example?
Alas, and did my Savior bleed?
And did my Sovereign die?
Would He devote that sacred head
For such a worm as I?
At the cross, at the cross where
I first saw the light,
And the burden of my heart rolled away,
It was there by faith I received my sight,
And now I am happy all the day!
Was it for sins that I had done
He groaned upon the tree?
Amazing pity! grace unknown!
And love beyond degree!
Well might the sun in darkness hide,
And shut His glories in,
When Christ, the mighty Maker, died
For man, His creature’s sin.
Thus might I hide my blushing face
While His dear cross appears.
Dissolve my heart in thankfulness,
And melt mine eyes to tears.
But drops of grief can ne’er repay
The debt of love I owe;
Here, Lord, I give myself away,
’Tis all that I can do.
I do believe we can sing new songs. I love some of the new stuff. We just have to keep the worshiper separate from the worshipee.
I’m not gonna be shady.
Now, I want to find a modern song to illustrate my point of how “us” centric we are now days, but I won’t. That wouldn’t be kind and would be sorta mean.
What I want ya to remember, though, is as you do your own prayers for a strong woman, keep the Lord in charge and the focal point.
This is means your agenda is not as important as His. And, in the example of me earlier, how and when He wants you to pray is the most important too.
Example from my life praying for a strong Christian woman...ME!
Years ago, I wrote a blog post about my own struggle in this area. It was during the heat of my tussle with control regarding my prayer life. Here’s an excerpt.
“Now is a great time to say, I’m not big on comparisons when it comes to prayer. My - all too wise – husband often says “comparisons are useless in a world of individuals.
Comparing your prayer time with someone else’s (especially it’s duration) is a waste of energy and sort of silly.
It’s childish and it’s carnal. Prayer time is personal and customized for each person by the Holy Spirit.
In one season of life, you may pray hours at a time. I’m talking literally! When I was a little girl, I remember the “old saints” doing this on Tuesday mornings. Few people can live productive lives and pray for hours on end. That’s not always possible. But, some seasons you may.
Other times, prayer will last only 30 minutes of your quiet time.
No “set” equation exists.
So, I don’t compare myself to others ever. I don’t even compare myself to myself.
Things change too often.”
It’s funny I wrote this, yet still struggled.
I also struggled when God did not answer my prayer as I wanted a Him to. This disappointment affected my prayer life as well.
Enter prayer accepting God’s will is King
I shared about that in another blog post on GodsyGirl.com, here is a piece:
“Through tears, I type these words knowing He did not answer my prayer the way I wanted Him to answer it. I guess, it’s like my child when I decline his request and he simply cannot see any reason in my decision.
Trust is such a big part of the Christian walk. Selfish people can’t trust because all they see is what they want; not the wisdom in God’s plan. Childish people don’t trust because they can’t share the power of life with an invisible God. Everyone knows babies and sharing don’t mix.
I’m growing toward maturity in my Christian walk. This means what I want is not nearly (evenly closely) as important as God’s plan. His will trumps anything I could ever want or ask for. So, when I ask myself ” does god answer all prayers?”, the question is always “YES”. Sometimes it’s how I want Him to, other times, it’s the best way.
Because I revere Him, I trust His decisions. Because I love Him, I humbly surrender my hopes, plans and expectations so His will is performed. Because I am indebted to Him for all He has done, I raise my feeble hands to worship [sometimes in faith], because He’s been too faithful for me to question Him.
I’ve learned that the proper response when God doesn’t seem to answer our prayers is simply…trust. That’s what an obedient child would do. I want to be an obedient, loving child to my Father.
So, I trust God. I trust Him to heal my disappointment. I trust that my friend is in the center of boundless joy, peace and no physical pain. The best part is that she is with Jesus, the greatest blessing of all.
Read post here: https://godsygirl.com/when-god-does-not-seem-to-answer-prayers/
Again, prayer is not about us nor what we want so much as it is about God and His purposes.
Want a sample prayer for a strong woman?
Formulas are stupid as it pertains to prayer. They have no place in genuine, heartfelt prayer practices. With all this said, I think you can have a structure or a process for delivering prayers. But, no formulas.
After all, what is commonly called the “Lord’s Prayer” is really a structure.
It begins with worship and adoration. It also begins with personalization. I love that in the prayer Jesus demonstrated us calling the Father “our” personal, own Father.
Example you can use in your own prayer for a strong woman:
“Our Father in heaven, hallowed be your name.”
He acknowledges, as an example to us, that it’s all about God and what she wants to do. Your prayer should include this sort of attribution and declaration as well.
“your kingdom come, your will be done”
Isn’t it super cool He lets us ask what we want? We can “knock” on His door to get what we seek anytime we feel the need.
See Matthew 7:7.
It’s doing this part of the prayer, Jesus invites us to let the Father know what we need, desire or want.
Example of this fact:
“Give us today our daily bread.”
Here, in this part, Jesus introduces something a little “sticky” or uncomfortable. He tells us our own prayer for a strong woman should include self-examination and release.
We should at some point consider any bitterness taking root in our heart release it through forgiveness.
It’s also, a time to confess our own sins and misdeeds. Ask the Lord to forgive us while we ‘forgive those who hurt us’. It’s part of that cycle of forgiveness received and forgiveness distributed.
Matthew 6:14 “If you forgive those who sin against you, your heavenly Father will forgive you.”
Example from the prayer:
“And forgive us our debts as we also have forgiven our debtors.”
The final part in our example of how to pray is the request for God to keep us from temptation and protect us from Satan. Your prayer for strong Christian women should include this as well.
Here’s the example direct from the prayer and how I crafted it from the Lord’s Prayer:
And lead us not into temptation,[a]
but deliver us from the evil one
So that’s it. That’s our example, or prayer structure whether you’re praying for yourself or a strong woman in your life.
My Example Prayer for a Strong Woman
How about we put all this into action? Here’s my take on using this structure. Be sure to find your own voice, ok?
Heavenly Father, God of the universe and creator of all things, I praise You and glorify your wonderful name.
You’ve created all things for me to enjoy and your might is matchless. There is none other like You. I glorify You and lift your name. I praise You.
My life is in Your hands, Father. I place my hopes, my dreams and my endeavors in your will. Your purpose for me is all I want. I live for you and I am crucified with you. Live your life through me, Lord.
Lord, I ask for _______________.
Believing I’ve received, I thank you for answering my prayer. Holy Spirit, work in me to have the confidence and peace to move forward in faith. Help me not worry about the very things I pray about.
Lord, I am but dust. Please forgive me for my sins of _________. I do want to be like you, I want to live as you lived here on earth and I repent of doing things my way.
Just as I asked for forgiveness for myself, please help me forgive ________ for what they have done. I wipe his/her slate clean now. I release her/him from the offense . I understand if I want forgiveness, I must forgive. So, I determine to do so right now in Jesus name.
Lord help me not go into situations that will tempt me or You. Guard me, Lord. From my own selfish desires and sinful inclinations and protect me from the evil one and his deeds.
I’m not ignorant of his devices. I know he wants to destroy me. Holy Spirit give me discernment and insight into his strategies.
What do you think about this prayer for a strong woman?
This prayer is rooted in scripture. Here are the scriptures I’ve referenced in my “take” on a prayer for a strong woman:
“Command those who are rich in this present world not to be arrogant nor to put their hope in wealth, which is so uncertain, but to put their hope in God, who richly provides us with everything for our enjoyment.” 1 Timothy 6:17
Whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God (1 Corinthians 10:31).
Let your light so shine among men that they may see your good deeds and give glory to your Father in heaven (Matthew 5:16).
But now, this is what the Lord says—
he who created you, Jacob,
he who formed you, Israel:
“Do not fear, for I have redeemed you;
I have summoned you by name; you are mine.
When you pass through the waters,
I will be with you;
and when you pass through the rivers,
they will not sweep over you.
When you walk through the fire,
you will not be burned;
the flames will not set you ablaze.
For I am the Lord your God,
the Holy One of Israel, your Savior;
I give Egypt for your ransom,
Cush[a] and Seba in your stead.
Since you are precious and honored in my sight,
and because I love you,
I will give people in exchange for you,
nations in exchange for your life.
Do not be afraid, for I am with you;
I will bring your children from the east
and gather you from the west.
I will say to the north, ‘Give them up!’
and to the south, ‘Do not hold them back.’
Bring my sons from afar
and my daughters from the ends of the earth—
everyone who is called by my name,
whom I created for my glory,
whom I formed and made.” Isaiah 43:1-7
All things were made by him; and without him was not any thing made that was made." John 1:3
I have been crucified with Christ and I no longer live, but Christ lives in me. The life I now live in the body, I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me.
Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask for in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours. Mark 11:24
For he knows we are but dust 15 and that our days are few and brief, like grass, like flowers, 16 blown by the wind and gone forever. Psalm 103;14-16
whoever says he abides in him ought to walk in the same way in which he walked. 1 John 2:6
Now whom you forgive anything, I also forgive. For if indeed I have forgiven anything, I have forgiven that one for your sakes in the presence of Christ, 11 lest Satan should take advantage of us; for we are not ignorant of his devices. 2 Corinthians 2:10-11
I hope this blessed you!
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Be strong! Pray often and have faith in what you pray for and in Who you pray too!
As you live out your own prayer for a strong woman, remember, keep God at the helm and surrender to His plan!